Whichever dating app(s) you’re using, there is an art to presenting yourself in an authentic and alluring manner. You can only send someone so many hole pics before thinking about changing it up.
Some apps are favourable to hook-ups and just need your quickest, hottest, and most recent pics, and others focus on forming something more than just a physical connection. It’s about making an impression, and no matter what you’re after, you can be that guy with the grindr profile that makes someone stop and say “Yes please”.
What do you want?
Everyone has different expectations of dating, intimacy, and getting down to business.
“Looking for?” is a common question that may make you roll your eyes, but can you actually answer it?
“I just, like, want dates, but also fun, but also down for a long-term relationship and just like, falling in love”.
Doesn’t sound that appealing, does it?
So ask yourself, “Is it something casual I’m after? Beers in the park? Three tops? Does it just depend on the chemistry?”
If you figure out what you’re actually looking for, then you can go out and get it.
Transparency = Better dating habits
Once you’ve figured out what you’re looking for, it’s important to be transparent.
For example, if you just want to be friends or go on a formal date to see if there’s a connection, don’t send nudes. It sets an expectation, which may not line up with your intentions.
There’s nothing wrong with sending nudes (of course), but be mindful that it may cause someone to over-sexualise you, or just want to f*ck because you’ve given them tools to think about it.
Of course, if you just want the sexy-time, then fire off those nudes.
A picture is worth a thousand d*cks
First impressions matter, and so does your profile picture. If you’re looking to score a hot date, five identical selfies just won’t do!
Choose a picture where you look comfortable and happy. We’re instinctively drawn to people that look like they’re having a good time, because it makes you more approachable. Approachability leads to interaction, and interaction can lead to connection. That means no frowning in pictures, because frown lines = frown LIES. You don’t look like that in real life. Stop scrunching up your face and smile you big dope.
Dating is patience
Not everyone’s top priority is to catch up with someone they’ve been talking to for twenty minutes (although sometimes it is – “go get it!” I say). When it isn’t a quickie, be patient. Some guys can be super flakey, have a busy life, can’t host, or have multiple other reasons that make them unavailable. If that hunk you’ve been chatting with is online or has messaged you, it doesn’t mean that they are free to chat. Some guys go through the 5 stages of grief when you don’t message them back because you was boning someone else. Sorry boys!
As mentioned, everyone has different expectations and needs, thinks differently about dating at the moment, and might be confused about how much they want intimacy. Remember not to take things too seriously (or personally) – we think you’re hot no matter what! Follow these inclusive profile tips, and you’ll be bringing in as much action as possible — short-term or long-term, it’s up to you.